ted英语演讲：这才是爱情应有的样子.doc

TED英语演讲：这才是爱情应有的样子
A better way to talk about love
OK, so today I want to talk about how wetalk about love. And specifically, I want to talk about whats wrong with howwe talk about love.
今日我想谈谈我们是如何议论爱情的。我尤其想和你们聊的是，我们议论爱情时终究哪里出错了。
Most of us will probably fall in love a fewtimes over the course of our lives, and in the English language, this metaphor,falling, is really the main way that we talk about that e_perience. I dontknow about you, but when I conceptualize this metaphor, what I picture isstraight out of a cartoon like theres a man, hes walking down the sidewalk, withoutrealizing it, he crosses over an open manhole, and he just plummets into thesewer below. And I picture it this way because falling is not jumping. Fallingis accidental, its uncontrollable. Its something that happens to us withoutour consent. And this this is the main way we talk about starting a new relationship.
我们大多数人在一生中可能深爱过几次，在英语中，坠入爱河这个比方，是我们议论这段经受的主要方式。我不知道你是怎么想的，但是当我把这个比方概念化的时候，我脑海里出现的是一幅漫画就像有一个人，他走在人行道上，没有意识到自己走过一个翻开的井盖，然后他就一头栽进下面的下水道里。我会这么想是由于，坠落不是跳动。坠落是偶尔的，是无法掌握的。是没经过我们的同意就发生了，而这我们说到开头一段新的感情，主要就用的这种方式去表达的。
I am a writer and Im also an Englishteacher, which means I think about words for a living. You could say that I getpaid to argue that the language we use matters, and I would like to argue thatmany of the metaphors we use to talk about love maybe even most ofthem are a problem.
我是一名作家，同时也是一位英语教师，这就意味着我以思索语言为生。你可能会说，我们用法的语言很重要，我认为我们用来议论爱情的很多隐喻甚至可能是其中的大多数都是有问题的。
So, in love, we fall. Were struck. We arecrushed. We swoon. We burn with passion. Love makes us crazy, and it makes ussick. Our hearts ache, and then they break. So our metaphors equate thee_perience of loving someone to e_treme violence or illness.
于是，我们坠入爱河。我们被击溃。我们意乱情迷。爱让我们疯狂，也让我们难过不已。我们的心会痛，会心碎。所以我们把深爱某人比方为与极端暴力和疾病相关的比方。
They do. And they position us as thevictims of unforeseen and totally unavoidable favorite one ofthese is smitten, which is the pas